A lot of times we like to think we can not respect somebody's authority over us just because we don't like that person. Maybe they're mean. Maybe they're hypocrites. Maybe we just don't get along. But God still put them in authority over us. So we must respect them.
I struggled with one student in my ministry a long time ago over this issue. She said repeatedly that she would not listen to me or do anything that I asked her to do simply because she did not like me and had no respect for me. So I told her that she needed to respect the position that I was in, but not necessarily me. This can be hard if you really don't like somebody. I struggle with this a lot. JM